"When we are self critical, our mind responds as if to a threat, heightening our anxiety. If we can activate self compassion instead, our mind experiences feelings of greater safety."
How can I be more self compassionate?
- Understand that you are a human being, you are beautifully flawed and will make mistakes. And that is okay.
- Reward yourself! Even the smallest achievements matter, so reward yourself and be proud.
- Embrace change. Nothing can ever be truly set in stone. Relationships, circumstances and feelings all change. If you are changing, embrace and adapt to that change. Don't beat yourself up for not being your past self.
- Realize that everyone's personal journey is different. Stop comparing yourself to others, their story will always be written differently to your own. Just because you are the same age, gender or personality type does not mean that you have to be in the same position as them mentally, academically, or socially.
- Tell yourself that your emotions are valid! No matter how ridiculous or stupid they feel. You're feel angry? Okay. You're feeling hurt by someone? Okay. You're feeling taken for granted? Okay. All those emotions are valid and you deserve to be treated well by the people in your life. If you feel something, say it! Feel it! And then find a way to move forward.
These are just a few things I tell myself whenever I get down. It's so easy to self blame, why not try accessing self compassion instead?
Emma
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